Monday, June 1, 2009

It's time...

to say goodbye to the pacifier.


I don't know if I am ready!
You are thinking...
shouldn't she ask if Allikaye is ready?
No - I mean I don't know if I am ready!

I always said that after potty training was done -
we would tackle the "pash"- as she calls it.


So...potty training is done...
ah! Can we do it?
What calms her during those lovely 2 year old tantrums?
Her pash!
What soothes her into taking 3 hour naps?
Her pash!
What helps her n.e.v.e.r wake up in the night?
Her pash!


Will I lose naptime?
Will I be awakened in the night?
I mean...
Will Allikaye lose her naptimes?
Will Allikaye get awoken in the night?
Man, how selfish of me! hehe


23 comments:

Shelby said...

Okay, Ashley....
I'll give you one big piece of advice I wish I had known! Don't take it away too early. With my first daughter, we took it away when she was two, but then so she took her thumb. She is now almost 5 and STILL has her thumb and the thumb is VERY hard to get rid of!
Another piece of advice is to make it fun. Give it to Santa Clause, Cinderella at Disneyland, or the Easter Bunny...I know none of these holidays are coming up so you'll have to be creative.
Maybe give it to the "pash" fairy. Hang it on a tree outside, on the mantel or on the front door and receive a treat in exchange for ALL her pacifiers.
Have fun and good luck!! Can't wait to hear how it goes.

Jill said...

Well I have found that everything I worry about (i.e. giving up the paci, weaning from the bottle, etc) has been a much bigger deal to me than it ever was to Eli. We "accidently" lost his pacifier at naptime but he still got it at bedtime, but once he started taking naps without it, we knew he could do it at night. He never noticed it was missing and he never replaced it with his fingers or thumbs.

However, I know some kids are a lot more attached than Eli. I read about a similar topic the other day and someone suggested calling up to the nursery at your local hospital and ask if it's okay to deliver your "pash" to the babies and then really talk it up to giving the pacifier to the babies because Allikaye is a big girl and doesn't need it anymore. I'm sure once you leave the nursery they wouldn't mind throwing it away for you!!! I think it would help to have such a visual and she is probably all about babies!

Emily said...

Lily was so attached to hers, but we managed to get rid of it Labor Day weekend last year. We slowly didn't give it to her. Like during the day, we stopped giving it to her except naps and night time. Then, we eventually worked on naps and night time. This sounds awful mean and I didn't like doing it, but she started crying for hers at night time especially and we gave her hers but we cut a huge hole in the nipple so it was pretty much useless. She did fall asleep holding it and eventually she would just throw it down because it wasn't any good to her anymore.

I've heard all kinds of stories everything from complete cold turkey to throwing it in the trash to giving it to baby cousins. Good luck though.We are currently tackling potty training and she just has no will power right now to do it, so let me know if you have any tips on this.

The Gava Family said...

My middle son loved his paci and many times I thought he would be going off to college with it. Some had suggested that we take our son with one of his paci's to build a bear workshop and have him put the paci in the bear before it was stuffed. If he ever asked for his paci we would give him his bear to hug. It worked!

number17cherrytreelane said...

PLEASE let me know how you do it!

Irene Joy said...

hmmm honestly? We took Chan's when he was three and that was around the same time we took Sky's and she was two...and I wished I waited till she was three! :) She's a pretty feisty girl so there were a few times when she was giving attitude I wished I coulda just used the "plug" :)

We went to the store and they got to choose a brand new fancy sippy cup but they could only have it if the gave us their treasured binky. And trust me they had theirs all day every day. We gathered up all the binkies (we did this for both of them) then they got to have fun snipping the ends off with the "big people scissors" which was a treat in it self! We called it "The binky cutting ceremony" and cheered and jumped up and down every time an end was snipped of and shouted "you're a big girl/boy now!!!" Then they got to open and use their brand new fancy cup. :) At night when they asked for their binky we reminded them that they had snipped them but that they were so lucky to have their new "fancy cup." With in two days their beloved binkies were forgotten about. :) AAAAAND that's my story. :)

When Chan was a baby he called it his "bacon" :)

Irene Joy said...

P.S. I don't see why there should be a rush. I mean she still is only two. Sure she could live without it but why put yourself (and her) through it when you don't need to yet ya know? She can always give it to our new baby in 7 months or so when she's ready if ya wanted. But I'm going to agree with Shelby, don't rush! :)

Dee said...

Aww I know how you feel! When the paci became a big deal to Evan I knew it was time to take it away. He would call for is Pa if he couldn't find it and he wanted it all the time.

One day-when he woke up I told him that we were leaving it in his crib. I told him to tell it bye bye and we'd see it again at nap time. Sure, there were a few tears during the day-but nothing big. I gave it to him at nap time and sleep time ONLY for the next month. By that time he was not asking for it AT ALL and would often fall asleep without it. Then I just took them out of his crib-he didn't even seem to know it!

I worked myself up over it but it really wasn't that big of a deal to him!

Dee said...

Oh and GOOD LUCK!

Lipstick and Laundry ~Jen said...

When weening of the "SiSi" as mine called it, I started with constanly talking about giving them to the garbage man when they turned 3... Then for weening I ONLY allowed the "SiSi" at nap/bedtime, it had to stay in the bed and then we said when you turn 3 we are going to give them to the garbage man,{constantly we spoke of this} so when the 3 year old bday rolled around there was NEVER one tear, it was just done... I think the talking about giving it away helped prepare my boys???

Lianna Knight said...

Uh oh!! Bye Bye Pash :)

Good luck! Keep us posted on how it goes!!

Many blessings!

kate said...

We did the binki fairy at 3. It was perfect timing. I plan on doing the same for Lily at 3. You will lose sleep but should adjust quickly.

It's a hard transition but if you can cut her usage down to just sleep, that will help a ton.

Maggie David said...

She looks very cute with the pash :-) It's tough but I think slowly cutting it out will make her lose that attachment!

Jessica said...

We weaned Miss A. slowly. We gradually took it away during playtime, then car rides and finally nap tme. We spent a total of 1 month weaning her but the naptime was the most difficult. She "detoxed" for about 3 days and then she was fine. Try to keep you sweet girl distracted and remember to give her LOTS of hugs!

amanda said...

wish i had wise words friend - our doctor "made" us get rid of it by 13 months - thankfully it wasn't too bad bc she was still little.

but i always dreamed of doing the binky fairy - sooo fun!!

you can do it honey - seriously it will probably be harder on you than her :)

Amber said...

When we were ready to take Emma's away, we just cut the tip of it off. Then the next day we cut a little more off. And in a few days there was nothing left. It worked really well for her/us. She cried when we cut it, but got over it pretty quick. Like others have mentioned, you could give her a reward for letting go of it.

s-diddy said...

umm i have no idea what to do about the "pash" ... but i sure do love that verse :) you're a great mama!

s-diddy said...

umm i have no idea what to do about the "pash" ... but i sure do love that verse :) you're a great mama!

s-diddy said...

umm i have no idea what to do about the "pash" ... but i sure do love that verse :) you're a great mama!

dani said...

good luck, ashley!!! i wish i could give you some advice, but katherine wasn't a pash baby...
much love,
dani xxx

Joanna said...

um, you just got 20 comments! You are uber-blog-popular. :) So great to see you last night!

Chelle said...

Oh, hon, I am dreading taking Isabella's paci away...dreading it!

I hope it goes okay for you--you'll definitely have to keep us posted on how it all goes.

Julie said...

My little one was only 15 months but I knew it was time when she'd take it out for a bite of food and put it straight back in before she'd even chewed! Our whole family has used the "cutting the tip" technique that Amber wrote about. It was recommended by a childs dentist (none of us had ever heard of it before) and has worked for my cousins daughter, my niece and now my girl.

* You wrote this a while ago - you've probably already figured it out!

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